The Hardest Part Of The Journey To Winning

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"Which part of the journey to your first million dollars was the hardest for you?"

Not too long ago, I was having a chat with my longtime friend and mentor, Sid, about his journey to success. I wouldn't say I'm at a low point in my life, but after weeks of non-stop expansion, I find myself losing the drive to push on. The road to success is long and arduous and I need some sense knocked into me and someone who is there to manage my expectations.

Earlier on, he told me a story about one of the lowest times in his journey that was kind of a wake up call for me. One day he was walking alone around town, feeling melancholic, and he saw a guy come out of a super car. He approached the guy and asked him this one question: "Was it worth it?" In his mind, he needed someone to tell him that it was worth it. That he was chasing a worthwhile cause.

Many times I find myself asking the same question, "Is all of this worth it?" Our lives are but a flicker, here one moment and gone the next. We are on but a tiny rock circling the tiniest of stars. What great purpose can we accomplish. Is any of it worth it? Hearing his story gave me a flicker of hope. He did not divulge what the guy told him or how the conversation continued. He said it was a secret that only he would know.

And that was when I asked him the question at the opening of this article.

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3 Hacks To Help You Succeed

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[Announcement: The Social Lifestyle has shifted! The old domain is still functional but will be phased out very gradually. It's the first of a series of changes coming to TSL. Even though it's now "daygamesingapore", the content is by no means specific to Singapore's community--though my experiences are generally based on interactions with Singaporean girls.

If you've shouted TSL to your friends, do let them know about the URL change because they may not see new updates such as this post on the old url. Now that's out of the way, on to what you're here to read.]

I've been in the game for almost three years--and while it may seem like a long time, I'm pretty sure I have a long way to go. Back when I first started there were a lot of information already available on how to pick up women, but there were close to no information teaching "natural" game. This was good because it forced me to learn how to function without routines while everyone was using them, but my learning curve was incredibly slow.

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The Art Of Bragging

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If it's one thing that turns a woman off the most it's an arrogant guy. Arrogance almost always stems from some sort of insecurity that requires compensation. I was having a conversation with Scar about the ego and his opinion is that having an ego is unavoidable--that one can even say that the most selfless people are the most egoistic. I don't necessarily agree with him but I do see his point. The conversation branched out into a philosophical dialogue that detracts heavily from the topic.

But it got me thinking, when does confidence cross over into arrogance. I've always said that it's not what you do but how you do it. Two people with the same accomplishments can use the same story to increase their sexual market value (SMV) but one can seem arrogant--while the other, confident. When a student tells me that he used a "display of higher value" (DHV) to spike attraction, I will invariably be skeptical of its effectiveness. DHVs can strengthen or destroy your game, often times very drastically. One wrong move and you might as well have literally shot yourself in the foot.

Thus, I feel it is important to share how to brag properly without coming across as tryhard.

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I Approached Over 200 People This Weekend. Guess What I Learned About Them?

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Ha, clickbait titles crack me up.

But seriously, my job required me to approach a lot of strangers on the streets--young, old, couples, families, and two-sets.

And I thought daygame was hard!

I had to start in the morning and push through the next twelve hours trying to get people to talk to me. The number of rejections were brutal. But still, in the end, I managed to take out a lesson from it that is very similar to daygame. Of course, I reinforced the usual mindsets like not letting rejection get to me, pushing through approach anxiety, self-amusement--basically everything I've covered in previous articles.

So, here are the four new things I learned:

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The Difference Between Comfort And Rapport

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It's quite common that you'll see the terms "comfort" and "rapport" being used interchangeably within discussions. I, too, used to think that they were both the same which made me assume that in order to create comfort, all I had to do was to build enough rapport. However, I noticed that with some girls I felt a connection with, there was no comfort--and vice versa. This got me thinking: are they really the same thing?

I will explain the differences. But first, let's define them (from dictionary.com).

Rapport (n): relation; connection, especially harmonious or sympathetic relation.

Comfort (n): a state of ease and satisfaction of bodily wants, with freedom from pain and anxiety.

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Field Report: Finding Joy In Small Successes

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Recently, a reader (Xen) emailed me wanting some daygame coaching in-field. I had MC (fellow coach) take him out to the streets and do some approaches. I joined them halfway just to see how the session went and I must say it went pretty well. I've had a few people contact me asking for help but almost none of them were willing to put in the effort to take the first step to put themselves out there.

It reminded me a lot of when I first started going out and doing approaches. The first girl I opened, I was excited. Then when I managed to stop her and talk to her for five minutes, I was excited. I was also excited at the first number I got. It is by hitting all these milestones for the first time that guys realize that "Holy shit, this works! I can actually just go up to anyone I find attractive and talk to her."

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3 Phrases You Must Eliminate From Your Life

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Our generation has been plagued blessed with the wonders of technology. Our smart phones offer us a world of knowledge and endless entertainment at our fingertips. We are bombarded with so much stimuli on a daily basis that it seems that we have become increasingly tolerant to the flashing lights and sounds. Just like a drug, we constantly crave novelty and increasing intensity--addicted to being stimulated from external sources that this has dulled our internal capacity for self-amusement and development.

There are three very common phrases that I hear too often, sometimes even coming from myself, that I think have to be eliminated from your life if you want to increase your productivity. Of course, one can argue that these phrases merely reflect a symptom of lack of discipline and motivation. However, while actions affect your attitude, so does attitude affect your actions. So start weaning these three phrases out of your life and soon you might see a change in your behaviors and quality of life.

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Expand Your Mind; Embrace The Complexities Of Life

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What's up, guys?

I took a much-needed break in Bangkok the past week and I'm back and feeling refreshed. I've been spending a lot of time producing some new content which I hope to release shortly once they're all ready.

But for now, let's discuss something a little more for the guys who've been in the community for a while.

If you've read a ton of pickup advice and game stuff online, you'd notice that different sources tend to give different advice--some even outright contradictory. This has led to a lot of debates about what form of game is best. Indirect or direct? Comfort or attraction? Tangible value or display of value?

To answer the question...

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The One Reason Why You Struggle To Fulfill Your Resolution

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I wrote an article a while back about why men in their twenties should remain single and while I still hold the same belief in my life, I don't discourage people from entering into long-term relationships. Especially among my peers who are almost all in their twenties, finding a girlfriend seems to be something they think about a lot. For some reason, being in a relationship is highly valued. One friend even remarked (in jest) that he was "better" than I am just because he was in an exclusive relationship and I wasn't. That made me curious, and so I asked him, "Why does that make you better?" We were bantering and so, naturally, he did not answer my question.

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3 Signs Of Growth To Take Into Year 2015

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This year came and went in a flash. It feels like just yesterday that I entered 2014, and here I am waiting for 2015 to come. It's been a crazy year and while things have been going slow, they're still going. Lots of things have happened. People have come and gone. I've been close to rock bottom and climbed back out. Basically, life was just business as usual. And the best thing is that it's not showing any signs of stopping, which is a good thing.

Just the other night a friend asked me which year since I embarked on my journey to self-development did I find I grew the most. I blurted out that it was 2013, but upon careful consideration, there really wasn't an answer. Every year was different, with different focuses and priorities. It is honestly hard to choose one. What's important, however, is that one never stops.

As I sit here and think about my life, my friends, and the conversations I've had with people with whom I've had the fortune of crossing paths with, I want to share my thoughts on growth (which is a cornerstone of happiness) and hope that it will help you as reflect upon your own life.

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