Whoever tells you they know how to attract women, whether they read or have gone out with a lot of women, is bullshitting you.
And I don’t mean in the sense that you can’t really understand what goes on in a woman’s mind (you can’t)…
Thing is, humans are so complex and are motivated by so many things, that it’s impossible to really narrow down what exactly at a specific point in time will help you get her attracted to you.
If you, like me, have actually gone out and approached thousands of women, you’ll understand how fickle the human mind is.
Not just women, by the way. There are so many times where I’ve approached and gotten a number, only to wake up the next day, look at her profile pic or recall the conversation and thought
“Nah, I don’t think I want to text her.”
So, trust me when I say that even after so many years in the game, and even meeting masters of the game who are constantly getting laid with high quality women, no one really knows how to attract women.
And I mean NO ONE.
“Wait I’ve read on how to attract women. Just have lots of money, look good, or be confident!”
Surely there are some guys who consistently can get women, right?
Wrong. Again, one (wo)man’s meat is another (wo)man’s poison.
Being rich helps, sure. But there are some girls who don’t care about money.
Looking good helps, sure. But there are also some girls who don’t care about looks.
And I’m not talking about a minority. Let me share with you an anecdote:
I have a friend who’s pretty good looking (according to many people).
In fact, he’s the only guy in the club that I’ve seen get approached by girls. Some buy him drinks. And every time he walks through, you can see the gazes in his direction.
In general, he’s pretty successful in his business. And charismatic and confident too.
Yet, I’ve seen also seen him “fail” with girls that he approach. It’s not like a 100% hit rate for.
Not even 90%. And not even 80%.
Why? That’s something I can’t tell you.
Because the truth is, I don’t know the girls, what they’re thinking, or why they aren’t throwing themselves at him.
There can be thousands of reasons.
So, What’s The Point Of Learning Game? Is It A Complete Waste Of Time?
If you sole purpose is to learn how to attract women, then yes, learning game is a waste of time.
Because all you’ll be doing is chasing a red herring that will evade you.
And eventually, you’ll be disappointed and give up. Maybe even end up being an “anti-PUA”.
I’ve seen this happen a lot to people I know. They join the community. Try to learn some secret technique to attract women.
Try it a few times (or even for years). Realize it doesn’t work. Chalk it up to game being complete BS. And going on with their lives.
Sure. They never end up seeing any results from game because their focus is completely wrong.
The end-goal that they’re working towards is completely unachievable. Because there’s no one method or way to attract women.
The Real Point of Learning Game Boils Down to a Couple of Principles.
These things won’t get you girls for sure. But they are good principles that will help you in every area of your life.
And the truth about game or pick-up is that whoever you end up dating is usually down to luck and persistence.
Any guy who goes out often enough, will eventually approach, attract, and date someone that he really wants to.
It may not be the most efficient. But with enough persistence, and luck…
And by luck I mean, both of you in the right place at the right time, with the right mind, will open up the opportunity to explore the relationship further…
But who really has the will to go through all that shit?
Rejections will chip at your soul and break you down (which is why you have to counter balance it with self-amusement).
Mindless repetition will not help you improve (which is why you need self-awareness to turn it into mindful repetition).
Which is also why, I personally got out of the game. Approaching and all that.
I started focusing on other areas of my life and other businesses. But without game, I wouldn’t have been able to do what I’m doing now.
Those 4 things were built into me when I was still a naive young kid running around and approaching thousands of random strangers on the street.
I pity the guys who don’t do that anymore.
Chances are they’re stuck in the game because they don’t get enough experience to really learn those fundamental principles.
My point is, you have to keep doing until you drill those 4 things deep into your psyche.
Only then will you be.
Or, you can just keep reading books and watching a bunch of YouTube videos and think you know how to attract women.
In that case, good for you. Keep doing what you’re doing and you’ll keep getting what you’re getting…
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